<![CDATA[Conversationswithabuttterfly - From Quotes to Change]]>Tue, 05 Jan 2016 19:35:28 -0800Weebly<![CDATA[From Quotes to Change]]>Wed, 02 Apr 2014 14:57:10 GMThttp://www.conversationswithabutterfly.com/from-quotes-to-change/from-quotes-to-change1Picture
Do you need practical support in turning Facebook's inspiring quotes into something more meaningful for your everyday life?

How many times have you come across an uplifting quote from Social Media and thought to yourself, 'Great, lovely, BUT....?' and then returned to whatever you were doing at the time?  All too often I'm guessing - and I would include myself in that too.  Quotes can have a very limited lifespan in our minds because it is filled with 49,999 other thoughts in our day that stop them permeating into our hearts and soul. Facebook in particular has a plethora of inspiring and insightful material to share with us, although there is something missing for me - it's the...
                                                
                                                  'Well that's all well and good, although how do I do that?'

Well, you need look no further, as this specially dedicated From Quotes to Change page will cover a different quote that I have found meaningful and most likely shared and show you how to turn it into something practical and doable in your life.  No more idealistic fancies about, 'I would if I could, but....'.  Instead a page of inspirational tips and techniques for creating genuine change in your life.  My intention is to break down what the quote means to me and what steps you can take to weave it into your life.  

"If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always got."

This is one of my all-time favourite quotes and one I've used endlessly in my workshops.  The essence of it is all about finding the courage to change.  If we ignore change's call to do something different, we end up with exactly the same results creating the same situation over and over again - and we become a victim to its chains.

We so often get caught up in routine, structure and day to day drudgery and find ourselves day-dreaming about things being better.  Although whether struck by fear or lack of belief about our ability to change, we get stuck in a rut of unhappiness.  Dreams feel like our only release from the habitual mediocrity.  

Yet when we realise that we can make our situations different and take charge of our life's chariot, we suddenly wake up to the possibilities of experiencing a better life.  We must move beyond the victim mentality of 'this is all happening to me' into 'what can I do to make this feel better?'.  Just that subtle change in energy can alter our state and the environment within which we have felt imprisoned.  

So ask yourself these questions to move yourself out of a place that no longer creates happiness for you:

1.  How satisfied am I about where I am today?
2.  If I could visualise a better or different life, what would that look like and how do I feel living that life?
3.  What three things could I do to improve my situation and take steps towards my visualisation?
4.  What would those changes give me and my life?
5.  When will I start to make those changes and how will I do it?
6.  What help and support might I need to make those changes?

The opportunity for a better way of life is right in front of us and is more within our reach than we think.  When we move into a positive mindset and take responsibility for our lives, then we release ourselves from 'what we've always had' and start to experience a happiness that we never before thought possible.

So look for areas of your life where you are still doing the same old, same old and acknowledge the power you have for creating a shift in your life situation.  Take the courage and resilience to change and you will be surprised by the results that you experience.  The life you deserve is waiting for you when you wake up from your day-dreaming. 

Change can feel scary and so if you want some support in helping you through the myriad of fears and anxiety, why not get in touch here.

Butterfly Blessings
Karen x 
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<![CDATA[From Quotes to Change]]>Mon, 17 Mar 2014 14:35:33 GMThttp://www.conversationswithabutterfly.com/from-quotes-to-change/from-quotes-to-changePicture
Do you need practical support in turning Facebook's inspiring quotes into something more meaningful for your everyday life?

How many times have you come across an uplifting quote from Social Media and thought to yourself, 'Great, lovely, BUT....?' and then returned to whatever you were doing at the time?  All too often I'm guessing - and I would include myself in that too.  Quotes can have a very limited lifespan in our minds because it is filled with 49,999 other thoughts in our day that stop them permeating into our hearts and soul. Facebook in particular has a plethora of inspiring and insightful material to share with us, although there is something missing for me - it's the...
                                                
                                                  'Well that's all well and good, although how do I do that?'

Well, you need look no further, as this specially dedicated From Quotes to Change page will cover a different quote that I have found meaningful and most likely shared and show you how to turn it into something practical and doable in your life.  No more idealistic fancies about, 'I would if I could, but....'.  Instead a page of inspirational tips and techniques for creating genuine change in your life.  My intention is to break down what the quote means to me and what steps you can take to weave it into your life.  Here's how it will work, using the above quote, which I created recently, as an example

This Ralph Waldo Emerson quote is beautiful and I have used it so many times in my previous life as a leadership trainer.  Its simplicity is that - all we need is within us.  We spend so much of our time running east searching for a sunset, looking for external validation of our worthiness, and looking for happiness in material things.  And yet if we could just have the courage to go inside our own minds, hearts and bodies, we would realise that we have all the answers, all the wisdom and all the resources we need.  Sadly we've been conditioned by modern Western society to set goals, measure success based on possessions and seek pleasure from things outside of us. Eastern culture's perspective is based so much more on what lies within us is the source of our life experience - imagine if we could have just a little dose of this - how much our  anxieties and our ability to find peace and tranquility could be transformed.

Here's three positive actions you can take to help you cultivate an appreciation of your inner resource, which are all practices I adopted during my year of healing hibernation and still do now:

1.  Learn to be still
When we learn the art of stillness, we begin to find a space inside of us where our wisdom, insights and intuition thrive.  Developing the technique of sitting or lying with no intentions, no goals, just being, releases the potential for our inner wisdom to surface and be our guide.  Finding moments in our busy days to just be quiet and focus on our breathing, can be all it takes to still the busy mind.  From this stillness you can then ask yourself constructive questions about what you need to do in this moment to be well and happy.

2.  Practise Meditation
It's very easy to say that we're too busy to meditate or that our mind is too busy to be still.  Although the opposite is true.  When we invest time to meditate, we begin to signal to our minds that it has permission to become quiet.  It is a discipline, although the benefits of letting go of all things that we are attached to that cause us pain are enormous.  However you are able to meditate, whether five minutes or twenty, take time to sit or lie and focus on your breathing. As thoughts pop into your head, simply acknowledge them and then return to your breath.  This simple technique really begins to detach yourself from your busy mind and takes you within.

3.  Be the observer
If you can learn the art of detachment by observing how you think, feel and behave, you very quickly begin to tap into your inner resources.  When you move the ego to one side and simply notice how you are feeling and what thoughts are coming into your mind, you start to tune into a level of awareness that gives you so many choices and options.  Practise by setting an alarm a couple of times a day (at a time that is appropriate to your lifestyle).  This alarm alerts you to taking a moment to reflect on what you are doing, thinking and feeling.  Just allow answers to come to you without judgement, just observe. and by doing so you begin to interrupt any negative patterns that may be weaving themselves through your psyche.

I hope these three actions help you make sense of Emerson's quote and help you go within and make the most of your inner resources.  You are already fabulous, you just need to wake up to the idea.

With Butterfly Blessings
Karen x
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<![CDATA[From Quotes to Change]]>Mon, 10 Mar 2014 11:23:48 GMThttp://www.conversationswithabutterfly.com/from-quotes-to-change/how-to-inspiration-pagePicture
Do you need practical support in turning Facebook's inspiring quotes into something more meaningful for your everyday life?

How many times have you come across an uplifting quote from Social Media and thought to yourself, 'Great, lovely, BUT....?' and then returned to whatever you were doing at the time?  All too often I'm guessing - and I would include myself in that too.  Quotes can have a very limited lifespan in our minds because it is filled with 49,999 other thoughts in our day that stop them permeating into our hearts and soul. Facebook in particular has a plethora of inspiring and insightful material to share with us, although there is something missing for me - it's the...
                                                 'Well that's all well and good, although how do I do that?'

Well, you need look no further, as this specially dedicated From Quotes to Change page will cover a different quote that I have found meaningful and most likely shared and show you how to turn it into something practical and doable in your life.  No more idealistic fancies about, 'I would if I could, but....'.  Instead a page of inspirational tips and techniques for creating genuine change in your life.  My intention is to break down what the quote means to me and what steps you can take to weave it into your life.  Here's how it will work, using the above quote, which I created recently, as an example.

May yesterday be blessed with memories...
We often look back at our past with sadness, regret, anger, shame and lament.  Sometimes we look back with joy and happiness too, although most often we are plagued with, 'If only I hadn't', 'I wish I had' type phrases.  I suggest that instead, we look back at our past with different eyes - eyes that look for the lessons it taught us, the richness it gifted to us, even in the pain and accept how it formed a critical part of your life's fabric today.  After all, we would not be the person we are today without the past shaping us.  So look back at your past seeking positive memories and the lessons and this will change how you feel about yesterday and so alter how you experience your todays and tomorrows.

Tomorrow with anticipation...
If we can look at tomorrow with a sense of expectancy, hope and desire, it changes our emotional energy about the future.  Often we fear what tomorrow will bring and fear vibrates at such a low frequency that it negatively influences our experiences in the moment.  Instead, look at tomorrow with a question; 'How can I make it better/different?'  Know that you are in control (whether it feels that way or not) and what you choose to experience and act upon will create a completely different future.  One question - and a lifetime of new experiences.

...and today with gratitude for its arrival.
One of the biggest lessons for me, during my hibernation in 2013 was learning to develop an attitude of gratitude.  Each morning I wake up and take a couple of moments, whilst coming around to simply express my gratefulness for waking up, being healthy, alive and vital.  Grateful for my husband being by my side and the goodness that we have created in our lives.  Being thankful for anything, small things, big things, it matters not what - it is just important that you cultivate that gratitude as it immediately influences how we experience the day.  Too often, we drag ourselves out of bed with a sense of dread may be, heaviness about the day ahead, something at work that you're dreading.  Whereas if you can begin the day with a gratitude for something that pleases you, it puts in a completely different frame of mind.  In fact during the day I continue to practise my blessings (rather than luck - as I think you make your own luck) and it puts me in a very different space. 

We only have this very moment in time.  Yesterday has gone, tomorrow is not yet here, it is only NOW that exists.  Imagine if we put more of our energy into NOW; how much better could we feel?  Look for good things as you look back, realise that you can influence how tomorrow looks and feels and focus on gratitudes that you have been blessed with being, seeing or feeling about your NOW.  These small changes can make one heck of a difference to your life.

So this is how my Conversations with a Butterfly From Quotes to Change Page will work.  If you like it, please share with your friends and less create change together.  Please comment as I love the interaction these quotes invite and welcome your constructive contribution.

Butterfly Blessings
Karen x

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